WHAT TO TEXT A GIRL YOU LIKE (HOW TO TEXT A GIRL)

You’ve got her phone number; now what do you do? Well, in this video I’ll break down exactly what to text a girl you like to get a date fast. Because I typically send only three to five text messages to get a date. I’ll show you how to text a girl and I’ll give you those exact messages in just a second.

The key is that you have to stand out from all of the other guys that are messaging her. Because if she’s an attractive woman, then she’s getting bombarded by guys messaging her every single day. I’m going to show you exactly how to stand out.

WHAT TO TEXT A GIRL YOU LIKE

Okay, now let me help you out with your texting. I’m going to give you five texting tips and examples. And number five is the exact sequence that I use to get the date.

First, let’s clear one thing right now. Texting is a lot easier when you have a solid interaction in person. If you didn’t create any connection or attraction and you just had a nice, plutonic interaction, there’s not much you can do through texting to fix that.

Assuming you had an excellent face-to-face interaction, or maybe you got her phone number of Tinder, or Bumble, tip number one has to do with timing. Timing is crucial.

#1

DON’T TEXT TOO SOON OR TOO LATE!

Typical Guy Tips:

Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious, but I think three days is kind of money.

You know what? Maybe I’ll wait three weeks.

Wrong.

Don’t wait too long! If you meet a girl at a bar text her the next day, in the afternoon, because if you wait longer than that, the memories start to fade.

Women are being bombarded by messages from guys on Tinder and social media, so if you wait too long, she may already be into another guy.

I only text her the same night if I think there’s a chance that she might come over that night. I will text her what I’m doing. For example, “Went to go grab a pizza to kill the hangover,” or “Milkshakes at 2:00 AM rock!”

And if she replies, and says, “Mmm, I wish I could have a milkshake,” then, of course, I’m going to invite her. This works, because sometimes she just needed to drop off her friends then she’s willing to meet up alone.

If you meet a girl during the day, don’t wait more than 3 or 4 hours to send your first text, unless you had a really long or intimate interaction, which I’ll show you how to do, then you might still be on her mind the next day. But during the day I usually text her around 3 or 4 hours after I met her.

Now, what about replying to her texts?

How soon should you text back? The key here is to be random. Don’t always text back right away and don’t always wait too long.

Don’t just stop whatever you’re doing to check your phone and text her back. Keep your phone on silent. That way … Sometimes you’re going to text back right away. Sometimes you’re going to wait two or three hours. Sometimes you’re going to be waiting even longer, maybe all day, because you’re busy.

That keeps things a lot more random and prevents you from overthinking things and playing games. Just be a busy guy. Live a cool life. And text her randomly, because she is not the most essential thing in your life.

#2

DON’T OVER TEXT.

I go for the date usually within five texts, because why do more work than needed? Plus, if you’re texting her all the time, it shows her that you’re not a busy guy and don’t have much going on in your life. Women like guys that have other things going on in their life other than them.

Also, keep your texts short and sweet. Before you send the text, look through it again and see if there are any unnecessary words that you can eliminate. Don’t send a text that’s three or four sentences when you could have said the same thing with just one sentence.

#3

BE PLAYFUL!

Next, I want you to start being slightly more playful in your texts. Here’s why. If she sees you as a fun, playful guy, then she will assume that going on a date with you will also be fun and not dull.

But if you’re sending her a bunch of boring texts, like, “Hey, what’s up? What are you doing?” She’s going to assume that going on a date with you is going to be boring and that you are going just to ask her a bunch of annoying questions on the date.

Make things a little bit more interesting than the average guy. For example, instead of saying, “What’s up?”, or “What are you doing?” you could say, “What kind of trouble are you getting into this weekend?“

Just adding the word trouble makes it a little bit more interesting. Instead of sending a ping text like, “Hey!” you could say something like, “Hey, you just popped into my head. What kind of weird voodoo magic are you using?” A text like that can actually make her smile, causing her to associate you with positive emotions. Whereas, “Hey!” doesn’t do anything. And there are a lot more examples of these in the free texting cheat sheet.

#4

TEXT LIKE A MAN!

Number four is Text like a man. What I mean by that is cut out unnecessary questions. Okay, sometimes you do want to ask her questions.

I like exciting questions, by the way, like, “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?” Or, “If you could have any superpower, what would you have and why?“

That can create some fun back and forth. But you want to avoid questions that make it seem like you’re not sure if she’s into you yet, or you’re not sure if she wants to hang out with you and use command statements instead. Instead of texting, “Want to meet up sometime?” say, “Hey! Let’s meet up Saturday night. I know this great place.“

This shows that you assume that she’s attracted to you and wants to see you. And be more specific about when you want to hang out. Women like a man with a plan. So instead of “Let’s hang out sometime.” Send, “Hey, let’s hang out tomorrow night. I have an amusing idea…“. Or, tell her the exact location, “Cancel all plans tomorrow night. I know a great band that’s playing at Crazy Charlie’s. Let’s go. It’s gonna be fun.” It’s specific, and it’s a command instead of a question.

Now, I want to give you the exact sequence that I use, from start to finish, to go for a date. First, I start off with a callback, something that relates or calls back to the initial interaction.

If it was at night, then usually something funny, that we joked about, or that I teased her about. For example, if we did a fun marriage role play, I might text her the next day “Hey wifey I cheated on you with the housekeeper don’t be mad.”

If we met during the day, then I might recall something that happened during the initial interaction such as her reaction to my approach.

For example, “So crazy meeting you today. It was cute how you dropped your phone when I said hi.” Or, if she didn’t drop her phone, but she just seemed nervous, I might say, “It was cute how nervous you got when I said hi.”

Notice also, how I don’t say “nice meeting you” because the word “nice” is too overused. Be more original than that and say, “so random meeting you,” or, “so unexpected meeting you.”

And then, after she replies, send a fun yet challenging text like, “Make it or break it question. Would you rather be poor and travel the world or be rich but could never leave your city?” I use this one because I love to travel. I encourage you to pick something that qualifies her or screens her based on a quality that you that you want in a woman.

But don’t make it too complicated. Don’t start asking her about her passions and goals in life. That’s too long and personal through text. Keep it fun and save those questions that for the date.

#5

QUALIFY HER.

By the way, you should be qualifying and challenging women in your initial interactions as well. Let them win you over. A woman wants to win you over. She wants to chase you a little bit. Okay? She doesn’t want a guy who’s just too easy and falls head over heels over her right away.

And I like the “make it or break it” part because that’s what actually makes it sound like a challenge. Or, for example, you if you like adventurous women, you can text, “Tell me this, are you adventurous?“

It’s short and sweet and causes her to invest a little. And then after she replies to that, there might be a little bit of back and forth, depending on her answer. Then find out what her schedule is, when is she free. Just ask, “When are you free this week?”

Or if you want to be more playful, you could add in, “Besides missing and doodling hearts on a piece of paper, what are you doing this weekend?“

Remember to keep it fun and playful. Don’t be too serious. And then, just go for the date. For example, if she said she’s free on Sunday, you can text,

“Okay, listen. I have a super fun idea. Keep Sunday night open.” I like that because it gets her wondering what the fun idea is. It sounds like a surprise.

And, some women will just go for that. Other women might ask, “What is the fun idea?” In which I just say, “Cool bar that you probably haven’t been to. First, meet at Handle Bar. Be there at 8:00 PM.”

That works really well. Try it out, man. Remember, women like a man with a plan who go for what they want.

GET THE FREE TEXTING CHEAT SHEET!

And for more texting, you can use, remember to download the texting cheat sheet, with 20 proven text messages to get the date and make her want you.

In there, I’ll show you what to text when she’s not responding. And I’ll show you what to text to turn her on.

Go down to the description right now, click the link, and download the cheat sheet. Just follow the link, enter your email, and I’ll send it directly to you.

HOW TO TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER WITHOUT GETTING FRIEND ZONED

We all know how hard it is to master how to tell a girl you like her WITHOUT Getting Friend Zoned. They say that the biggest fear in the world is public speaking, I reckon the SECOND biggest is revealing how you feel about someone.

It’s like jumping out of a plane, hoping that the parachute will open and that you won’t crash and burn in case she rejects you!

So how can you guarantee that telling her you like her won’t have her running for the hills? Whilst I can’t give you a 100% guarantee she will feel the same , what I do want to do in this video is show you strategically how you can start to reveal your feelings for her without scaring her away!

HOW TO TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER WITHOUT GETTING FRIEND ZONED!

I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man and it’s my job as your coach to make you the most confident and desirable man that you can be.

If you are currently dating a girl that you really like or maybe have been trying to get it across to that friend of yours that you keep hanging out with , that you really like her ….

Women can get cold feet just like you guys , and sometimes we get scared about our feelings or the possibility of a relationship because of our past experiences . So here are my tips to help you communicate your feelings to her in a way to minimize rejection and increase your chances of having those feelings reciprocated .

START TO TEST THE WATERS A LITTLE BY SENDING HINTS

The very first thing you need to do is gather as much information as you can about how she could possibly feel before you go all in. It’s like seeing how cold or deep the water is before diving into the pool!

Some basic ways to drop hints would be complimenting her in more specific detail eg :

“I think your eyes look beautiful today” , as opposed to “you look hot!” or “ I think your really great at that , you can tell your creativity is a strength , it makes you glow.”

Remember the little things she has mentioned and then do something about it! Ifs she mentioned that she never has time to eat a proper meal because of a stressful deadline , then send an Uber Eats meal to her house as a surprise

Start asking her about her future plans and include her in yours subtly with phrases like “we “ and “us”

After dropping hints , you want to watch for her response. Does she pull away? Does she laugh compliments off or does she blush and return them? Does she change the subject when you start to talk more about the future ?

This will help give you an indication if she is on the same page or may need a little more time.

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SHOW HER FIRST BEFORE YOU TELL HER

Actions will always speak louder than words and whilst women love to hear what you have to say , ultimately it’s what you do that will either win her over or not. If you just up and tell her one day that you like or love her , but you don’t actually show it , chances are she will be doubtful , confused or just flat out reject you .

Now the easiest way you can do this without having to spend lots of money , buy 10 puppies or build a disney castle , is to simply learn what her love language is. Guys is you haven’t read Dr Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages , then stop , collaborate and listen. You need to , it will literally change everything you need to know about love and women.

Basically there are 5 ways in which we give and receive love , which are :

Acts of Service ( doing stuff for her )
Quality time ( spending time with her and being present and not on your phone )
Physical Touch ( affection , kissing and sex )
Gifts ( buying her things she appreciates )
Words Of Affirmation ( telling her positive things , compliments etc)

Now if you can work out which way she feels loved and then focus on fulfilling that love language , I guarantee that she is going to really start to becoming attached to you!

CHOOSE THE RIGHT MEDIUM FOR YOU – TEXT OR FACE TO FACE

The next step is deciding how you are going to do it ! Are you both someone who has big deep and meaningful conversations through text? Are emojis your thing? Or is it something that she would appreciate you saying face to face?

There is no right or wrong answer , although whilst telling here face to face is the scariest , it is usually the best way to do it . That way you can really see how she reacts and if it’s possible it means you can seal the deal with a kiss!

CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIMING

Next you want to choose the right timing , this is a somewhat intimate thing to do and really is the turning point of whether it makes or breaks your new relationship. So don’t do it when you are both drunk , stressed , fighting or in a noisy place !

Be a little strategic about the timing but also be open to the right opportunity when it comes along , whether that be when you are laughing and walking in the park , after you have just been intimate or maybe when she is being a cutey and you just have to tell her there and then.

When things aren’t too orchestrated it means you won’t be as stressed out , but at the same time at least be aware of when there might be a better time to tell her! If she is super stressed out or maybe in a bad mood then it’s probably not the right time to tell her.

SAY IT LOUD AND CLEAR

Ok guys here is where you have to jump out of the plane . There is no turning back now! Truth is if you have done all the above steps first you should at least know if she is starting to feel the same and when the right time is to say it.

Now that you are ready , do it boldly! This doesn’t mean yelling it at her , it means just owning your words and your feelings . Keep it simple , clear amd authentic and stay away from cheese and long speeches.

Simple phrases like “ I think I’m falling for you “ or “ I really like you , in every way” are complete heart melters and come across really romantic and genuine. For me when my man told me , we were literally having a conversation in a pub with his family and friends and I simply stated “ I’m in love with you, to which he responded “ I’m in love with you too .” It was simple , to the point and bold , but it was the absolute truth!

EXPECT THE BEST , BUT PREPARE FOR THE WORST

Probably not what you wanted to hear , but as I said I can’t make this entirely risk free . Truth is love will always involve some unknown and lack of control and that my friends is why we like it! It’s important to remain optimistic because whatever you focus on is what comes into fruition .

And if you have started to test a few things before hand then you should have a pretty good indication if she is feeling the same way or not before you tell her. But a little dose of reality helps to keep things realistic and not set ourselves up for unmet expectations .

If she doesn’t feel the same way then at least you have your answer and you can decide whether or not it is worth to keep pursuing her. Rejection happens to all of us and if you haven’t already I suggest you watch our other video on tips to handle rejection which I will link in the bio.

Now if you are someone who really struggles under pressure and feels like all your confidence goes out the window , then I suggest you download our confidence cheat sheet.

It contains 18 proven ways to increase yuor confidence and become fearless , which is usually what we need when we are about to out our heart on the line!

These methods are based on science and psychology and will help ease your nerves under stressful situations like telling the girl you like her!.

HERE’S THE RECAP:

1. Start dropping some hints and watch for her response
2. Show her first before you tell her
3. Choose the right way to say it , in person is usually best!
4. Choose the ideal timing
5. Say it loud and clear
6. Hope for the best but expect she may not feel the same way.

5 BIGGEST MYTHS ABOUT WOMEN

What are the 5 biggest myths about women, you ask?

If you think you have us all figured out, then you are wrong! But the good news is, what I am about to tell you will go against everything that you thought you knew about women!

I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man and in this post I’m going to BUST 5 myths about women that you thought were true! And trust me guys, you are going to be happy about the answers…

5 BIGGEST MYTHS ABOUT WOMEN…. BUSTED!

Alright, I’m going to let you in on a secret! I have been stalking the majority of all you men in the comments for our channel, because I want to get inside your head and know what you think about women. So click now to subscribe and be sure to watch to the end!

So, if you ever feel like really saying what you feel or want one of your questions answered then don’t hold back and tell us in our comments section!

I noticed that there were 5 major things that you guys seem to get confused and frustrated with when it comes to us ladies. So, it’s time to set the record straight and do my own version of myth busters! Oh, and number 1 is a big myth that has to stop so make sure you watch this whole video!

5) WE ONLY WANT MEN WITH MONEY

I will admit there are a lot of women out there who do prey on men for money, because they are either lazy, fearful of being broke or just down right gold diggers.  As a coach, but more than anything as a woman, this comment frustrated the hell out of me and I hear it more often than I should.

Here’s the thing. The right woman appreciates a man who can provide financially, because it helps provide her with security of the future , but it doesn’t mean she wants to count your pennies, because she will also be a woman who wants to  contribute as well!

We are women and biologically and scientifically speaking we yearn to nest and be protected by men. This doesn’t mean we want to bleed you dry or only marry you for your wallet. And if you are only experiencing women like that then the issue is that you can’t identify the right women from the wrong women and need to attend one of our bootcamps.

A man should, to some degree, want to look after his partner and children, not by having to work his ass off while she does nothing, but because it’s an act of love to help protect and provide for the family. And, the right woman will recognise that you are man of high value and will also be wanting to contribute in whatever way she can.

4) WE ONLY WANT TO DATE TALL, GOOD LOOKING MEN

Alright, I will confess I am attracted to a tall man, but I have dated shorter men because any woman who has the right intentions will get to a point to where they realise a real man isn’t made up only by his height.

Let’s first clarify tall. Most women see short as any man under 6ft, which is ridiculous I agree, especially when the global average height of men is 5ft 9 inches.

But let’s put things into perspective. You guys all have a certain type of woman and physical traits that you are attracted to, whether its big boobs, small bum and a tiny waist. We all have ‘types’ or ideal things we want. But in a world full of billions of singles we know that there has to be more than just these things.

Most women want a man who treats her right, the height is just an added bonus. The truth is if a man think his appearance or height is the only way to win a woman then he disadvantages himself.

Women are more attracted to the following things than height:

Confidence, manners, ability to lead , romance, and being valued and made to feel special. 

3) WE DON’T LIKE MEN APPROACHING US

Ok hold the phone! We love it when men approach us with confidence and charm, we hate it when they make us feel unsafe or are sleazy and aggressive. See the difference there?

If you haven’t watched my other video on 10 tips for approaching women effectively, then put that on your to do list. 

Women may come across guarded when you approach her but it doesn’t mean she won’t be interested, she just doesn’t know you yet, so her reaction is normal!  But if you want to set the right impression then it’s all IN THE WAY you approach her. We see men talking to us and singling us out as old school romance, it makes us feel special and sets our hearts a flutter.

And here’s the thing, asking a woman out or talking to her is going to give you more of an indication if there is potential for anything as opposed to just selecting someone through a dating app.

Don’t be scared, be a gentleman and you will probably be shocked by their reaction.

2) WE ARE HIGH MAINTENANCE AND WANT YOU TO DO ALL THE EFFORT

I will say one thing, we do live in a time where self-entitlement is killing relationships and driving men and women apart.  Women don’t want you to do all the effort, but they do expect you to invest and make them a priority. And you know what, this is completely normal because it communicates that you value and like her.

Dating isn’t a competition of who does more or less, it’s a courtship and both people should be making the amount of effort that reflects how they feel. If she’s coming across high maintenance, ask yourself first, is this woman actually a diva or am I actually being lazy and not doing enough?

Everyone wants to point the finger at someone else and the truth is women are just as scared as you guys of being taking advantage of. We don’t want to date users either.

1) WE DON’T CARE ABOUT SEX

I don’t know where this myth came from but I have a feeling it’s from the 1950’s or from an over worked and underappreciate tired mother who just wants to sleep sometimes.  OK time for a little fact for you men.

Yes men do have a higher sex drive and think about sex 60% more than women on a daily basis , but a study that was published in TIME magazine revealed that their colleagues found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period.

Women want to have sex, but they also want the emotional connection. So the key then isn’t just to focus on getting physical with her but also tapping into her emotional state as well.

Guys you can sit there and vent your frustration through the comments or you can start to really understand us a bit more and then use it to your advantage. We aren’t that complicated, we are just misunderstood and a great woman is an asset!

But if you struggle with even knowing how to strike up a conversation or basically feel a little lost when it comes to women then be sure to download our Confidence cheat sheet Which has 18 proven ways to increase your confidence fast. These are methods based on science and psychology.

This will help you ease your nerves under stressful situations, like approaching beautiful women.

Best First Date Questions (5 things to ask)

Here’s my new post about the Best First Date Questions!

What if I told you height, money and looks aren’t the only way to win a girl over? In fact, if you ask her these 5 questions I am about to tell you, you will leave a lasting impression that will set you apart from every other guy.

I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man Team, and in this video, I’m going to reveal to you the top 5 questions to ask a woman on a first date, that will have her wanting to know more about you on a second date!

5 BEST First Date Questions

5: “Are you OK here or would you like to go somewhere else? I want you to be comfortable …”

The first thing a woman will be instinctively feeling and thinking is “Do I feel comfortable and safe with this guy”  Because we are doing two things when we meet you in the first 5 mins :

•          Working out if we are attracted to you
•          Working out if we feel safe around you.

As the weaker sex , we instinctively want to make sure we can trust you to lead us and make us feel secure and protected.

This is why it’s important to ask her that! Ask her if she feels too cold or hot, is it too loud or are there too many other males there so she feels intimidated.

Guys be the hero from the first date, take control and show straight away that you are concerned about how she feels.

Asking about if she feels too cold is also a great opportunity to take your jacket off and put it around her as well. By expressing your concern, you come across as a gentleman, which is what we want to know you are.

4: “Can you let me know as soon as you get home, so I know you’re safe?”

BOOM! This is so good because once again it shows that you are concerned for our safety, and that you will be still thinking about us after we have gone. It’s downright chivalrous behaviour and makes us feel like a damsel in distress, plus it gives us an excuse to text you first! (which is what we secretly want to do if we really like you.)

Remember one of the main impressions you want to leave on us, is that you actually care about our safety and wellbeing. It makes us feel valued and really feminine! We then already start to see you in the light of being a gentleman and a hero. NO joke that’s how we work, it really is that simple.

3: “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Ok this is a great question because it does two things: the first is that it gives you an indication of who we are as a woman and what we want… (remember guys don’t just aim to impress women , aim to impress women that are actually worth dating and investing into)

And secondly, it also sends the message to her that you are a future thinker…that you are a man with a plan and it may very well include her!

Trust me before we have even met you we are already starting to work out if you are our future husband and by the first 10 -30 mins we are now starting to piece together everything…. it’s how we work as women (hence why I coach women to not jump ahead and just stay present!)

But on the flip side use that weakness to your advantage IF you have the right intentions. It doesn’t mean she is the one, but by at least asking her this question it shows that you are also a man who thinks about the next part of your life.

2: “Have you ever been told that you look like …(insert a gorgeous celebrity)”

Ok, there is a slight rule with this one…make sure you choose someone who she actually remotely looks like… no point saying she looks like Beyoncé if she is Chinese. Also, make sure the celebrity is someone that has some sort of credibility, no woman wants to be compared to some trashy figure.

If you can’t think of anyone, then find another way to compliment her without it being sexualised, for example: “Has anyone ever told you, you have a beautiful smile?”  or “Did you know your eyes change colour in different light “?

Point out the small details that you are noticing and she will feel singled out and very special and you will come across really romantic…like seriously we melt with that sort of stuff.

1: “Are you a family type of girl?”

Double BOOM! This is going to hit her right in the feels because it shows that you are someone who appreciates family which equals: good man = good husband= good father =jackpot. Yep, we go that far.

Ask her about her family, parents and siblings to show you care and then talk about your own so that she can feel more connected and closer to you. No doubt the subject of children will come into the conversation at some point, feel free to express your own opinion here, but make sure you do so in a way that is thoughtful and promising, but not necessarily committed. For example, don’t say “I hate kids and never want kids” …instead say “I’m pretty certain I don’t want kids because I think the right woman is enough for me”

Or if you do want children, then casually say “I think when I meet the right girls , then I’ll be ready for children” ….you want her to start painting pictures in her mind that she might be the special one for you!

Guys these are just 5 simple questions that can literally get her hooked on you. The thing is they are also great starting points for conversation to get to know more about each other which helps make a date flow .

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How To Get The Girl You Want 6 Most Effective Ways

There are currently 4 billion single women in the world who are wanting to meet a man, so if you think there are no fish in the pond, then you are wrong.  But what I want to do, is teach you how to attract the fish that YOU want and make this year the year you can confidently approach dating and women.

So let’s learn how to fish!

6) Choose quality over quantity to avoid dating burnout

The first thing you need to do is not turn this into a number games, but instead a quality quest. The more dates you go on, doesn’t mean the closer you are to finding the one.  You can sift through hundreds of women, but if none of them are what you want then you will just get dating burnout and choice fatigue.

My advice is to limit your options to finding women through two ways – 1) through sparking conversations with women in real life and two by joining only one online dating site or app.

And here’s why.

Talking to women in real life forces you to start identifying and creating opportunities around you, instead of feeling that there are no good girls out there. Stick with me because I will tell you how to do this in number 2!

Secondly, when it comes to online dating sites or apps, going on more than one just means you are giving yourself too many women to choose from. Truth is if you can’t find enough dates on just one site, then you are doing it wrong!

Too many choices blur the lines of what you want and makes it harder to commit to who or what is in front of you because you are distracted by the fear of missing out of someone greater.

You aren’t going to know the full potential of a girl if you are too busy comparing her to another stranger.

5) Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses

Just as you are attracted to a confident woman, women attracted to confidence within a man. If that is something you have been struggling with then it’s time to start building more of it into your life daily.

We often lack confidence because we focus too strongly on our faults or what we don’t have compared to what other men out there do have.

Stop thinking that you need to be an alpha male in order to get the girl and start harnessing what strengths in your characteristics you have that make you stand out.

I want you to write a list of all the things you are good at and also what great qualities you bring to a relationship. If you are unsure then ask your mates or mum! Put that list somewhere where you can see it every day.

The next thing I want you to do is make an accomplishment board of all the things you have achieved that are worth noting. If you become too focused on what you want to gain instead of what you already have accomplished you can forget your current value.

Thirdly: If you know that you have one physical feature or characteristic that really charms people then enhance that when you go on a date with a girl.

For example: if you have great smile – then smile more

Beautiful eyes? Then wear a color that brings them out.

Leadership skills? Organise a date where you can lead her through a crowded space and come across as someone in control.

4)Let go of the ones who rejected you

Alright this is something we have to deal with. You can’t keep going into a new year carrying the same crap, as it warps your perspective and blocks the right women from wanting to invest into you.

Rejection happens to the best of us, and some of those Hollywood stars you see out there get rejected just as much as the rest of us normal folk.

The best thing to do is to see rejection as a redirection. What I like to do, is every time someone rejects me, I see it as confirmation that they aren’t meant to be in my life and therefore it means I am not entertaining who I shouldn’t

Delete photos of exs and old messages of dates that didn’t work out and start clearing your mind of women who don’t deserve a place in your life!

3) Put some effort into your dating profile

Ok, you have to realise that you have one third of a second to impress a woman online. So, if you haven’t already checked out my other video on Tinder profile tips, then make sure you do so straight after this video!

Guys just because there is an abundant of women, doesn’t mean they are all worth your time. You have to use the right bait to catch the right fish. And I will tell you right now that if you put more effort into your profile, then you are likely to get more quality options to choose from.

So, here’s what I want you to do; I want you to set aside 20 mins to actually sit down and update your profile so it doesn’t look like every other geezer on there. Select a few photos and send them to some trusted female friends and ask them which ones they think work best. 

Put some effort into your bio by talking about who you are and what you are looking for and make it sound interesting and fun!

If 20 mins can up your chances of finding the right woman, then my question is why haven’t you already done it?

If you get stuck, then look at successful profiles and simply base yours off there’s without copying word for word! You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just know the basics and how to enhance who you already are.

2) Approach more women in real life

This brings me back to point number 1. Talk to women in real life but without an agenda. 

What I mean by this is, often we are scared to talk to a random girl because we think she will flat out refuse us. But if you make the conversation the goal rather than the rejection or acceptance of you, then technically you can’t really fail. 

Having a casual conversation as opposed to straight asking her out, means you have less chance of rejection and also makes things seem more natural.

Truth is women love being approached in real life, as long as it is done under the right circumstances. You can literally accelerate the process of meeting someone and set yourself apart from the others if you simply take the initiative to open a conversation with a girl.

If you struggle with conversation, then I suggest downloading our conversation cheat sheet, because it will tell you what to say, when and how to say it so that you can approach a girl confidently. The link for that is in our bio or click the image on the screen right now .

The second thing to do is watch my other video “ Here’s How She Wants You To Approach Her” there is a link down in the description.

1) Learn more about women

It’s pretty crazy how many of the comments I read on this channel that say women expect too much. You guys have standards, right? Well so do we, and instead of getting angry at women because you haven’t met them , try to understand how we function .

You have to realise that there are two people in a relationship, therefore there are two needs and wants and both are as important as each other . If you want your ideal woman , then get to understand how she works, what she’s attracted to and what she also wants.

The more you take the time to understand women, instead of assuming they all want too much or are too complicated , the more you have an advantage over other men!

I would start with actively listen to women and asking them what they want instead of guessing your way. I would also watch several of our other videos like 7 Signs a Girl Likes You , How To Flirt With Girls or 5 Things Women Instantly Look For.

You see if you know how to fulfil her desires then she is going to want you even more , so it’s a win win situation.

Give up the guessing game , that is so 2018 and instead start working smart in love so that you can accelerate the girl of your dreams into your life .

BEST Last Minute Valentines Day Date Ideas

Here are the BEST Last Minute VALENTINES DAY Date Ideas!

Valentine’s day is here and before you label it as a cheesy hallmark holiday, let me just say that it is the perfect day to win a single girl over. Why? Because from January the first she is already hoping and wishing that she has someone to spend it with!

10: Go to a singles event –

There are probably quite a few Anti Valentine’s Day events for singles in your area, which is a perfect opportunity to grab some of your single mates and head along to.

The reason why this is prime ground for finding a girl, is you will literally be in a room with abundant of single women who are probably wishing that next year they have someone special to share the day with.

Now if you want to know the next 9 easy ways to find a date  then make sure you click the subscribe button and give us a thumbs up!

9:  Carry a bunch of roses to give out to women –

This might sound random, but giving a random rose to a woman who you are attracted to, is a great way to open a conversation.

Now it’s not to say the first will take you up on your offer, but if you carry enough roses and ask enough girls then who’s to say you can’t find a girl who might want to go on a date with you. 

8: Ask the girl out at the gym – 

If you have been eyeing a cutie at the gym or maybe even had a few casual conversations, why not use Valentine’s Day as the perfect excuse to take her out. You might even say to her or slip her a note saying “will you be my Valentine” …it will probably make her giggle and is a good way to open up a conversation that leads to a date!

7: Do a #hashtag search for Valentine’s day on social media –

There will be so many girls on social media either trashing Valentine’s day or saying how much they wish they had someone, so look at some of the accounts you follow or search a few hashtags like #singleawarenessday #needavalentine #needaboyfriend….and start talking to them via a message and see if you can woo her into a date (provided she lives near you!)

6: Go to a single parent meet up –

If you are a single dad then this is a great way to connect with other single mums who might be feeling lonely this time of the year. The best ways to find single parent groups is either a community notice board or through joining a Facebook group that does local meet ups.

5: Ask your work colleagues if they can set you up – 

Whilst dating your work colleague isn’t always ideal, it’s not to say you can’t date one of their friends. Sometimes finding a match is simply by using your connections and social circle to your advantage by expanding it and asking if they can set you up on a blind date!

4: Join a dating app or online site- 

Ok obvious one here, but the good point is, you have the perfect excuse to actually ask her out on a date earlier rather than later. Chances are she will be wanting to spend the day or night of Valentines with someone rather than alone, so this is a great opportunity to jump on!

3: Host a dinner party –

Dinner parties are a great way to meet new people in the comfort of your own home. Ask your friends to bring along any single friends or just new friends in general, so that you can create opportunities to meet new people and make a new connection. You never know who they might bring or who they might also know would be an ideal date for you!

2:  Buy a random girl a coffee –

If you go to a regular coffee store and see, then why not buy the next hot girl you see a coffee – even if she works behind the counter! Finding dates are often just about recognising opportunities in different environments and circumstances.

1:  Go on a date with yourself! –

If all else fails why not make this day about spending time with the most important you can ever have a relationship with, and that is yourself! I am a huge fan of dating myself regularly, because it means I learn to find joy in my own company, which funnily enough ends up attracting even more people into your life who want to add value!

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7 Reasons Why You’re NOT READY for a Relationship

Is she not ready for a relationship? Or are YOU not ready for a relationship?

Right now, there are over 3.5 billion women in the world. 2 billion of them are between 24-54 years old. Let’s assume half of them are single.

That leaves 1 billion women who – based on my experience – are actively looking to meet a man or are open to it. So why then are you struggling to meet ONE? 

Why is it that you can’t find a girl?

Why do you go on dates and put in all this effort… but still aren’t getting anywhere?

There are 7 reasons why and Renee Slansky from The Attractive Man team is here to tell you what those 7 fatal reasons are, and exactly how to turn them around.

1: You don’t know what you want

If you are out there dating and trying to have a relationship and have absolutely no idea, or a really vague idea of what you want, then it’s going to be a very confusing process for everyone involved.

Think of love like a map. In order to set a course, you have to know where you are and where you want to get to. This is what gives you a point of direction to work towards.

If you don’t have a sense of direction, you’ll just aimlessly wander around from girl to girl and never actually get anywhere.

Here’s what I want you to do: I want you to sit down, grab a piece of paper and actually write down WHAT YOU WANT! List the top 5 qualities in your dream girl and dream relationship and then ask yourself, how can I make that a reality?  Do you want a long-term or casual relationship? Because identifying what type of relationship you want will help you work out what qualities that girl will have that can give you that type of relationship.

Do you need to be more proactive? Do you need to do some work on yourself? Do you have any idea where this type of girl might hang out?

The clearer you are the more chances you’ll have of attracting her and recognizing her when she comes along.

2: You need to sort out your baggage

Let’s be adults now and understand that no one is coming to rescue us and that we are actually the common denominator in our lives. If you are struggling to hold a girl or find a girl then it could be because you need to sort your crap out!

A high value awesome woman isn’t going to put up with a guy that still lets his past get him down. Stop making excuses and do something about what you are bitter or angry about.

Having a great relationship is about being a great partner who doesn’t hold onto unnecessary destructive crap.

I want you to do something: I want you imagine grabbing a suitcase and load it up with 10 or 20 kgs of weight, then I want you to take it on every date with you and try to meet women…. pretty sure women are going to run a mile ….

Well that’s what having baggage is like…it repels the right people from our life and attracts the ones who also have unresolved baggage.

So here’s what you need to do to get rid of it:  Write a list of all the people who hurt you, list what they did, speak forgiveness over them and yourself out loud for each person: which is something as simple as “I Rob… forgive you Jane for breaking my heart and hurting me in 2010, I release you and myself from this experience” .

Then burn that list. It might seem stupid, but hey I’m the coach and I actually know what works, so try it for me.

Remember you can’t correct what you aren’t willing to confront.

3: Choose commitment.

I will say this, you aren’t alone and it is more common for men to fear commitment than women, but just because you are in company doesn’t mean it’s going to justify your fears or that it’s good company!

It’s time to grow up and realise that commitment is not a prison sentence, it’s an opportunity to be loved wholly by someone and open your heart to another who can actually enhance it.

Statistically speaking, married men actually live longer and have less stress, because they understand that a problem shared is a problem halved!

There will always be risk involved but you get to choose how you respond to life. So, try and just take commitment in baby steps instead of being scared away from the big picture. 

And ask yourself where does this fear come from, is there baggage from point number 2 you need to sort out?

4: You’re dating the wrong woman over and over again!

If you have a type that’s a great starting point, but just make sure it’s women who are also good for you.

You see you can’t choose who you are attracted to, but you can choose who to fall in love with.  Not all women are money hungry, blood sucking, heartbreakers (shock horror I know!)

But you have to weed out the good from the bad and learn to identify them early on.  Make sure when you are attracted to a woman that you are taking your time to get to know her, look at what she’s consistent in, and ask yourself if she has more than just looks and sexual attraction going for her.

One thing I get my clients to do is an ex mug line up …basically I want you to profile all your exs and previous dates and see what common qualities and similarities they all have. Then trace back what could be indications of these such as her looks, way to act, dress, her friends etc.

Then once you have an idea, you will be able to pick up on it before it’s too late!

5: You’re not making room for anyone in your life

If you want someone to fit in, then you have to make them feel like they have a place. I get it, you want to have all your ducks lined up in a row, but if you keep delaying because you don’t feel ready, you’ll keep missing out and losing more time.

It’s not about trying to squeeze her in when you finally have everything perfect, you can still have a relationship even while everything else is in progress.

So, here’s what I want you to do. I want you to set 1–2 nights a week free where you would eventually want to spend quality time with her. Right now, she’s not in your life, but it’s about getting prepared and in a positive routine to receive her. Dedicate these two nights to either proactively trying to get a date, by being social or interacting with women or doing something fun.

Next, I want you to clear a space in your bathroom for her… yep when she eventually comes you will already have a space for her to fit in!  Also, this physical reminder will keep you accountable to what you want and need to do as well to get it.

6: Your standards are too high or too low

Guys, get to know what a healthy and realistic standard is. Stop guessing or basing it off your past experiences and get educated.

If your standards are too low you will always be disappointed and unfulfilled. But, if they are too high, then women will never feel like they can please you and you will end up alone. The two indications of a healthy relationship are peace and progress. If you don’t have either then you are either too high or too low!

7: You don’t have a clue about women!

Ok lastly this is a pretty big one. If you don’t know a thing about women then we aren’t going to feel like you add value to us. This is why you have to subscribe to our channel, because we literally give all the juicy details away.

Guys women aren’t that complicated. We teach you how to talk to them and woo them, so if you haven’t downloaded one of our escalation cheat sheets then do so now.

Here’s the thing, a lot of the time all we want is to feel like a priority, have some security and know that you think we are beautiful and valued. It’s that simple.

If you want to know how we tick you have to get inside our heads and hearts! Make the effort to invest getting to know how we tick, what we feel and want, because it’s actually going to be to your own advantage, plus you’ll make up for lost time and set yourself apart from every other man out there.

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