How to Impress a Girl on the First Date | 5 Things Women Instantly Look For in Men

Dating is like a dance between the prey and the predator. You may not know this, but women actually want to be caught and devoured but by the right man!

To find the right man, women are instinctually and subconsciously looking for specific traits in men they meet.

So all you need to do then is know what those things are and how to embody them so that you can have her wanting you more without having to try and convince her!

I’m Renee Slansky with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to give you 5 things that women instantly look for in a man on a first date:

How to Impress a Girl: The First Date

Ok so first dates really matter and here’s why; this is where you are giving your first impression. And just because you like the girl and want a second date, doesn’t mean she is going to feel the same….UNLESS you know what she is looking for and able to tap into that, triggering her response to want to know you more.

Not going to lie, what I’m about to reveal to you is pretty much what most women are looking for in a first date, and truth be told it’s not as complicated or as scary as you think.

So let’s unlock the volt and jump in:

Here is what women are looking for – someone who can protect, provide, lead, love and listen ( in a nutshell) and here is how that translates to the first date:

1:  Confidence – not just in your appearance and body language but also in your actions, words, and decisions. We don’t want ego, but we do want a man who we feel has a sense of direction and is able to take charge and lead. This really comes across more in your energy and presence …if you can walk into a room and have a sense of confidence and leadership about you without coming across as arrogant, then we will swoon.

2: Decisiveness – nothing sexier than a man with a plan who can just make decisions and lead the way.  We want to know you are able to help us and be the man we crave and that comes across so easily if you take decisions (like ordering the wine or choosing the restaurant etc) …again you come across as a leader who can take control. And it makes us feel like a damsel…it also gives us a hint you can take control in the bedroom

3: Security – we want to feel safe to be ourselves and not be compared to other women. Whilst we also want to feel you could protect us physically and care about our safety. If you come across too domineering then we can feel unsafe in your presence and want to retreat. But if you shrink back from the confrontation hiding behind us then we won’t see you as a man who can fulfill our primal needs to be kept safe.

4: Listening skills –  If you can actively show interest in what we are saying it makes us feel like a priority. It also sends the signal that you care about what we say and who we are which are indications of the ability to love.  And listening also makes us feel safer around you and being able to trust and open up to you.

5: Chivalry – we don’t want a hero, but we do want a man who makes us feel like a lady. Simple things like opening the door for us, pouring the water, taking the bill, are all signs that you want to make us feel valued and special. It’s also an indication that you have the possibility to give us romance which is what women crave.

Final Thoughts

The thing is guys, tapping into what makes us tick makes us also want to do the same for you. Relationships aren’t just about giving so you can get, but by stepping up and playing your role so that you can build a solid foundation right from the first date.

The amount of women that are literally out there looking for just these 5 basics is incredible. So if you want to set yourself apart from the others and get her thinking about you, all you have to do is focus on those 5 things to create a lasting first impression.

When you are on the date, a woman wants a man who isn’t afraid to make a move, that’s why we created…

Motivate Yourself to Meet Women

Look, I know you want to improve your dating  life….

And sometimes while learning the game, you face challenges.

Learning how to meet women takes practice and discipline but sometimes lack of motivation and other priorities can get in the way.

So when times get tough, how do motivate yourself to go out and get the reps in?

TIP 1: No Fap

Although studies have actually shown that masturbation has little to no affect on your sex drive itself, it does affect your motivation to go out and meet real women. Think about it… If you could get the rush of chemicals from Hand-Solo all while never leaving your man cave, mentally there becomes less of a reason to go out and hunt, but it’s the hunt that makes you strong, and it’s the failures that make the taste of success all the sweeter. Every time you make a choice you are building a habit so why not choose to put the time to Master a skill that will help you in other aspects of your life that’s useful forever.

So Instead of taking the easy road to instant gratification make a rule for yourself…

TIP 2: Accountability Partner

When I started my journey to deal with social anxiety and get better with women, I had the support of 3 other guys who were doing the exact same thing.

We accomplished going out in Las Vegas 90 nights in a row plus day game sessions on the weekend. In fact, if it wasn’t for them I probably would have fallen off the wagon and given up in the first month.

See, we may have had our moments of disbelief at one time or another, but the key was, we never had them at the same time, and when it came time to go out, no man was left behind.

TIP 3: Just take the first step

I remember a few times in that 90-day marathon where I really didn’t want to go out. I’d whine and complain to my roommate about “how tired I was” or “how I didn’t feel like it” but he was a crafty one.

He would always tell me “Hey man, we’ll just go out for an hour, be home by midnight, its cool, let’s go,” and of course with it being a low investment to me, I’d end up going out…. But it never ended at “just midnight” because once I got rolling it was fun and I lost track of time.

So if you are having issues talking to girls, take the first step and just start showing up in the places that women are available to socialize with.

For working out, they say, showing up to the gym is half the battle. The same is true for meeting women.

TIP 4: Create a Reward System for your efforts, not your results

Maybe you’re like me, and you love video games, but we all know that the likelihood of you getting a hot girlfriend with video game skills is little to none, but is something you really enjoy. Like cake, if indulge too much, without burning off the calories you are going to get fat but you can still have it from time to time so use it as a reward. For example every night you go out and approach 5 women you could give yourself 1 hour of video game time. If video games aren’t your thing, substitute it with something else you enjoy, like getting a massage or taking a steamy hot bubble bath.

The key to this tip is rewarding your effort, just like those kids nowadays who get participation trophies, it like your consolation prize for at least trying.