Rejection
hurts because it makes us feel inadequate as a person and potential partner. It
knocks about our self–esteem, confidence and basically, all around makes us
feel like crap.
We
are all going to experience some sort of rejection in life, ( so let’s be
realistic ) but if we can minimize it, then chances are we will feel more
successful.
So
here are 5 reasons why most women reject men and I’m also going to give you a
practical solution to each of those reasons so that you can actually break the
pattern. And then at the end, I will give you a cool bonus.
So
lets’ start!
1: You’re coming across too strong or
not strong enough
There’s
a fine line become coming across overbearing and confident, just like there is
between being nice and being boring. Women want a decisive man who can take
control but she also wants to know you will give her options and space for her
to move.
Solution – Her reaction will be your indication
if you have gone too far or not far enough. Have a plan when you date or
approach her so you can come across as a man with direction , but ask her
opinion and give her some free range to add to the ‘plan’ so she feels valued.
2: You are friend zoning yourself
Here’s
the thing , even if she has already thought she can friend zone you , you can
actually change her mind . Friend zoning usually happened when you are too
available and too nice. She feels safe
around you and can trust you which is great , but you need to keep up the chase
and add a little bit of danger and excitement by not always agreeing with what
she says and does and by taking control a little more.
Solution – allow her to see you in positions
where you can show your leadership skills and have other women respond to you.
Don’t also be so available and every time things get a bit plutonic step back
and get her to chase you a little more.
3:
Your lack of confidence is betraying you
Not
going to lie, women are ridiculously attracted to a confident man! Confidence
is about projecting yourself in a certain way, even if you don’t feel it. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
Solution – use body language and knowledge about
what women want to your advantage to appear more confident. Dress to impress and
always have a plan.
4: You aren’t putting in the effort to
woo her
I
did a poll recently and the number one reason women were being turned off by
men was that they felt they weren’t putting in any effort. Effort doesn’t
equate to spending lots of money on flowers and fancy dinners, it’s more about
making us feel like a priority.
Solution – take note of how she responds to
certain words and actions so you can keep putting energy into the ones that get
her going. Remember the small details and doing little things daily to
communicate you are thinking about her.
5:
You’re trying too hard
Yes,
we want you to put in an effort but if you don’t give us room to chase you a
little (which is what women instinctively want to do), then we get turned off.
We want a little bit of mystery and a challenge whilst also knowing that you
aren’t playing games.
Solution – initiate the chase and start to woo
her , but don’t go all in at once , give her a little then step back so she
wants more…then give her more , etc. and keep repeating. Tease her with who you
are the potential you offer her.
