Motivate Yourself to Meet Women

Look, I know you want to improve your dating  life….

And sometimes while learning the game, you face challenges.

Learning how to meet women takes practice and discipline but sometimes lack of motivation and other priorities can get in the way.

So when times get tough, how do motivate yourself to go out and get the reps in?

TIP 1: No Fap

Although studies have actually shown that masturbation has little to no affect on your sex drive itself, it does affect your motivation to go out and meet real women. Think about it… If you could get the rush of chemicals from Hand-Solo all while never leaving your man cave, mentally there becomes less of a reason to go out and hunt, but it’s the hunt that makes you strong, and it’s the failures that make the taste of success all the sweeter. Every time you make a choice you are building a habit so why not choose to put the time to Master a skill that will help you in other aspects of your life that’s useful forever.

So Instead of taking the easy road to instant gratification make a rule for yourself…

TIP 2: Accountability Partner

When I started my journey to deal with social anxiety and get better with women, I had the support of 3 other guys who were doing the exact same thing.

We accomplished going out in Las Vegas 90 nights in a row plus day game sessions on the weekend. In fact, if it wasn’t for them I probably would have fallen off the wagon and given up in the first month.

See, we may have had our moments of disbelief at one time or another, but the key was, we never had them at the same time, and when it came time to go out, no man was left behind.

TIP 3: Just take the first step

I remember a few times in that 90-day marathon where I really didn’t want to go out. I’d whine and complain to my roommate about “how tired I was” or “how I didn’t feel like it” but he was a crafty one.

He would always tell me “Hey man, we’ll just go out for an hour, be home by midnight, its cool, let’s go,” and of course with it being a low investment to me, I’d end up going out…. But it never ended at “just midnight” because once I got rolling it was fun and I lost track of time.

So if you are having issues talking to girls, take the first step and just start showing up in the places that women are available to socialize with.

For working out, they say, showing up to the gym is half the battle. The same is true for meeting women.

TIP 4: Create a Reward System for your efforts, not your results

Maybe you’re like me, and you love video games, but we all know that the likelihood of you getting a hot girlfriend with video game skills is little to none, but is something you really enjoy. Like cake, if indulge too much, without burning off the calories you are going to get fat but you can still have it from time to time so use it as a reward. For example every night you go out and approach 5 women you could give yourself 1 hour of video game time. If video games aren’t your thing, substitute it with something else you enjoy, like getting a massage or taking a steamy hot bubble bath.

The key to this tip is rewarding your effort, just like those kids nowadays who get participation trophies, it like your consolation prize for at least trying.