When you see a gorgeous woman, you have about 5 seconds to
come across as either creepy and intimidating or attractive and mysterious.
And the difference between the two is all in the approach.
I’m Renee Slansky with The Attractive Man, and today
I will give you 10 tips for approaching women
in public so that you know if and when to approach her and how to come across
as confident and desirable at the same time.
I’m a professional dating and relationship coach, and I’m
here to help men like yourself understand women and become a more confident
man.
So, let’s talk about approaching women in public places.
There is always a fine line between looking like a stalker and causing her to
want to run away and looking like an alpha male who knows what he wants and
isn’t afraid to get it.
The truth is, majority of the time we as women do want men to
approach us, because it made us feel more attractive and singled out, however,
there are also sometimes when we are sending off apparent signals not to come
near, and to be frank it really turns us off when you ignore them and push your
agenda on us.
But it’s not to say that you can’t change our mind, so what I
will do is break down the whole process for you and give you my top 10 tips to
know when and if to approach us , how to turn the situation around so that we
feel comfortable in your presence and of course how to set the right impression
so that we feel safe and interested in who you are.
Let’s jump
in!
1: Assess the
environment – is she busy or with a bunch of girlfriends? Is she wearing a
wedding ring? Does she look intoxicated or is she focused on something else
important?
2: What is her body
language saying – Does she have her arms or legs crossed? Is she looking
around, does she look anxious or guarded?
3: Make your presence
known without approaching her- Let her see you in her peripheral vision and
get her subconscious associated that you are in her presence. Then move in and
out of her line of sight without actually speaking or looking at her.
4: Catch her eye and
smile – Test to see if she notices you with a smile or eye contact. Don’t
hold eye contact for longer than a few seconds. See what her response is after
you have caught her eye. What do her reaction and body language say?
5: Pick a feature or
detail to focus on and compliment us – If you are going to approach her,
have something in mind to talk about in a way to compliment her, but do not
make it anything sexual. The smaller the detail the better as it shows you pay
attention to the little things.
6: Never approach from
behind – It’s creepy and doesn’t make us feel safe, plus it feels
deceptive. Approach from the front or side so she can see you and your
confidence.
7: Approach with a
smile- A small genuine smile, not a huge cheesy or sleazy one. Stay natural
and look like you are happy to see us, almost like we are an old friend.
8: Have relaxed body
language and keep a distance between you both – Coming on too intense or
too close will make us want to back off and put up walls. Keep at least a meter
apart from her and try to keep your body relaxed. (Not crossing arms in front
of chest or hands on hips.) You can come across as a confident alpha male
without coming across as overbearing.
9: Don’t be so serious
make her laugh- If you want to impress a woman and make her feel at ease,
then the key is to get her to laugh. It doesn’t mean you have to have jokes up
your sleeve, but rather just don’t take the conversation so seriously and look
for an opening where you can make a comment that makes you both relate and
laugh about it. Again compliments should be on the details, not sexual zones,
ie, bum, boobs or lips.
10: Ask questions but
listen more than you speak – Giving her your undivided attention (meaning
not looking at your phone, around the room or other women) makes her feel
special. Show her your interest by asking about her and then actively listening
(portray this through your body language) affirm what she is saying, don’t
agree with everything and leave some mystery about yourself…
Your approach is the beginning of initiating anything with a
woman, hence why it can either seal your fate or open up limitless
opportunities. Master the approach and
give a great first impression, while minimizing rejection.
But of course you have to have a conversation with her, so if
you haven’t already downloaded our free conversation cheat sheet then click on
the image below, right now!
