How To Talk To Women And Have Deeper Conversations

Have you ever had a hard time learning how to talk to women? Are you always running out of things to talk about when meeting someone new?

We all know starting a conversation with a complete stranger can be intimidating. As we walk over, sometimes our minds go blank unsure of what to say.

Today, I’m going to share a powerful technique that teaches you not only how to talk to women, but it’s something that you can use to spark a conversation and build massive rapport with anyone.

How To Talk To Women: The F.O.R.D. Method

The FORD Method is a great way to start strong when getting to master how to talk to women that you’ve just met.

An easy way to remember this technique is using the acronym F-O-R-D which, stands for:

·         Family

·         Occupation

·         Recreation

·         Dreams

The conversation possibilities from these four categories are endless. Just be sure to ask open-ended questions and avoid questions that can be answered with a yes or no.

Use their answers, and the tips I went over last week to build on the conversation. You can check last week’s post by clicking here.

Here are some example questions you can ask, and breakdown of each topic.

FAMILY

·         What is your family like?

·         What was it like growing up as a kid?

·         Do you have any siblings? And then a follow-up question. If she does have siblings you can ask her what her siblings are like. If she doesn’t, you can ask do you ever wish you did.

Studies have shown that when people share family-related matters with strangers, they feel closer to them. You’ll have to keep that in mind when knowing how to talk to women. After all, you usually only share personal information with close friends.

The challenge, however, is that asking about family upfront can sometimes come off too strong.

What you want to do instead is branch the conversation in a way that family naturally comes up.

There are two ways you can do this.

One, you can talk about your family first.

For example, when I was recently talking to a girl, I mentioned how I was excited to see my little sister over the holidays. I then asked if she had any siblings, which she didn’t. I then asked if she ever wishes she had some, which lead the conversation towards the family.

The second way is by making assumptions about her. Next time you talk to a girl you could say, “You look like you come from a big family”.

Whether your right or wrong doesn’t matter. Making assumptions is a great way to create a sense of curiosity and spark a conversation.

She’ll either wonder why you think she comes from a big family or corrects your statement. Either way, you’re now on the topic of family.

OCCUPATION

·         How’s your job going?

·         How did you get into your field?

·         What are your career plans?

Our work makes up a big portion of our lives and is probably one of the most used conversation starters. Because of that, it’s the easiest topic out of the four to start with.

The trick about making this topic work is not to dwell on the surface level conversation.

Let’s say you’re on a date and ask her, “What do you do for a living?”. “I’m a school teacher”, she says.

Most guys make the mistake of staying on the surface level asking questions like, “What subject do you teach?”, “What grade?”, “What school?”.

Instead, I recommend you move to deeper topics.

The way to do that is by getting to the root motivation and emotions for becoming a teacher. You could ask her, “What inspired you to become a teacher?”. You could also comment how “It must feel incredible knowing you’re making an impact on these children at such a pivotal time in their life.”

See how this can lead to a deeper conversation than asking, “What subject do you teach?”

RECREATION

·         What do you do for fun?

·         What do you like to do that brings a smile to your face?

·         Any vacations planned for next year?

·         Are you into any pro sports? What’s your favorite team?

Everyone has some sort of hobby, interest, and passion. When getting to know how to talk to women, it’s important to talk about interests.

Like the occupation questions, avoid sticking to surface level topics. Instead, jump into the deep end by focusing on the motivation and emotions.

A great way to segue from occupation to recreation is by asking, “What do you like to do when you’re not working?”

The best mentality to have on this topic is wondering, “Why is this activity so exciting for this person?”

Chances are, the person you’re talking to has a hobby that you may know nothing about.

Maybe they love rock climbing but you’ve never been. You could say, “Oh that’s cool. I’ve always thought rock climbing was an interesting sport. Why do you like it so much?”

Following up with questions like this allow the other person to dive deeper into their hobby and explain why they love it.

As Dale Carnegie says in his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, “It’s better to be interested than interesting.”

DREAMS

·         What did you want to be when you were a kid?

·         If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?

·         What do you think you’ll be doing in five years?

·         What’s your favorite place to visit?

·         What’s the most exciting thing on your bucket list?

This is one of the most powerful topics you can talk to someone about.

Unfortunately, most people are told to take the “safe” route instead of pursuing their dreams.

If you’re one of the few people that actually brings up and supports their dream, the other person will think very fondly of you.

This is usually the last of the four topics I bring up. Most people are sensitive when discussing their dreams since they are so used to people focusing on why it can’t happen.

Because of this, be sure to build up a good amount of rapport, from the other three topics, so you can get truly meaningful responses to dream questions.

Again, just like the previous two topics, get into deeper level conversations. Focus on the motivation and emotions associated with their response. You’re getting to understand how to talk to women. And you’ll definitely have an easier time establishing rapport.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

1.       Beginners: Memorize one question for each section and do 3 approaches with the focus of using the FORD method to build comfort. The goal would be to touch all four topics using the questions you memorized.

2.       Advanced: Same as beginners, but 6 approaches. They only count if you can get through the entire FORD method.   

Alright, guys, that’s how to talk to women and have deeper conversations. Using the FORD method!

Be sure to go out there and start implementing it RIGHT AWAY. Success loves the speed of implementation.

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How To Get A Girls Number: 3 Best Ways

You’ve approached the girl, she seems into it and now you don’t know how to get a girls number from her. Suddenly you start to get nervous. Is it because you don’t know the best approach? Should you try to make her laugh? Just be straightforward about it?

What’s the best way to go for it so she’s more likely to say yes? Here’s how to get a girl’s number the right way!

1.     Don’t ask, Command.

The usual blunder…

Most guys ask for her number. Big mistake. That shows a lack of confidence. When you ask, it presupposes the fact that you aren’t sure if she likes you. It tells her that you aren’t sure if she actually wants to give you her number. When you’re being insecure in front of her – that’s going to be a turn-off.

How you’re going to do it: REPHRASE YOUR QUESTION INTO A COMMAND

So instead of asking “So…can, I get your number?” display your confidence and assertiveness. Rephrase it as a command like “Here, put your number on my phone.” That way, you’ll come off as an Alpha male. Not showing any signs of weakness and staying in control.

2.     Make it fun and exciting

Try and get a giggle out of her while you get her number.

SEND A TEXT TO YOURSELF WITH HER PHONE

What I like to do is this: I tell her: “Hey let me see your phone, I’m going to give you my number.” Then I go to her SMS app and I send myself a text: “Hey Matt you are so hot ;)” And sign her name. I’ll just wait a few minutes and text her “aww thanks you are so sweet” and she will crack up. This is fun, flirty and it works great.

The best part about this is she’s very unlikely to object to you putting your number on her phone. It seems harmless, and she can always just not text you if she doesn’t want to. But presto! You just got her number through the text.

ROLE PLAY VERSION

Another funny move is to save your number in her phone and just call your phone so you have her number. “Here I’ll give you my number… and I’ll just call myself so you have mine”

But actually, pick up the call and use this opportunity to do a funny role play like: “Oh hey mom? Hey, I just met this girl she’s kinda cute, but she’s kind of a dork. I might give her a chance though, we’ll see.”

3.     Go for it like a Boss

If all of this seems too gimmicky or silly for you, here’s how to get a girl’s number like a boss.

How you’re going to do it: BE THE BOSS

Say something like, “You seem cool. Here, you can put your number on my phone.” and remember to stand beside her so you get in more touching. That way, you’re already breaking the touch barrier even before you get her number.

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So try that out, man. And remember to be assertive.  I already know the feminists out there are going to give me shit for saying that but I’m sticking to it. Asking for permission to have her number shows uncertainty and you should assume that she likes you, unless she communicates otherwise.

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This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl but it’s going nowhere.

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How To Flirt To Make Her Want You

Alright, I am going to give you a rundown on how to flirt.

Many guys make the mistake of thinking flirting is all about making her laugh.  Laughter is great, however, do it the wrong way and you will be sent straight to the friend zone.

The Rules

Here are the basic rules and then I will give you some examples later down.

1. Have FUN For Yourself – When you are with a girl, you should be flirting because it is fun FOR YOU.  You don’t flirt because you want to please her.  You flirt because you enjoy it… as a result, she will have a good time and she will want you more.

2. No Self Deprecating Humor – This can be funny and you see comedians doing it all the time, but it is not attractive when someone makes fun of themselves. This is one of the Biggest Mistakes guys make.  They make her laugh but at the expense of their own attractiveness and value.

3. Be slightly Cocky – Highly Attractive Flirting is done through the right combination of being Cocky and Funny.  Too much “funny” and she won’t take you seriously.  Plus, she will start to see you as a clown.  Too much “cocky” and you will look like an arrogant asshole.

4. No Value TAKING – In other words, don’t make fun of her just so you will make yourself look better.  Many “guru’s” teach this but it doesn’t work with High Value Women and it is not a respectable behavior.

5. Flip The Script – In general, your flirting should be in the frame of, “She is trying to seduce YOU”  (You’ll see some examples later)

6. No Approval Seeking – When you say something flirtatious or sexual, don’t wait for her reaction to see if “she liked it.” Just keep doing what you were doing, knowing that she loved it.

7. How You Say It Is Everything – It really doesn’t matter what you say. What matters is how you say it! When flirting, have a slight smile (like you have a secret) when you speak.  This shows her you are having fun and that look is very sexy to women.

8. Body Language –  Women love guys that are fun, dominant and confident. And these attributes are all sub communicated through your body language…..not your words. To help perfect your body language, take one of our advanced training courses.

Examples on How To Flirt

Here are some fun “games” or “frames” to use when flirting. Some of them may seem out there, but just think about in what situation you can use it.

– If you can take me anywhere on a date where would it be?

– Shut your pretty lips

– What’s up punk, do you want to fight?  I’d so take you.  I’d tickle you until you pee your pants.

– On our first date, make sure there is ice cream involved.  Cookies and cream preferably.

– Will you do me a favor?  Follow me around and when girls start trying to pick me up, jump in like a cute cat ninja and shoo them away.

– You look like you’re trouble.

– Did you save this seat for me?

– Stop trying to undress me with your eyes.

– I’m not that kind of guy, okay? Geez

– Where’s your off button? Because I really want to push it right now.

– Let’s play a game. Let’s see how long you can hold your breath.

– That’s it, we are getting a divorce. You can take the kids and I will take the lake house with the private helicopter.  I will call you later for some break up sex.

There you go… Have fun

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