How To Get The Girl You Want 6 Most Effective Ways

There are currently 4 billion single women in the world who are wanting to meet a man, so if you think there are no fish in the pond, then you are wrong.  But what I want to do, is teach you how to attract the fish that YOU want and make this year the year you can confidently approach dating and women.

So let’s learn how to fish!

6) Choose quality over quantity to avoid dating burnout

The first thing you need to do is not turn this into a number games, but instead a quality quest. The more dates you go on, doesn’t mean the closer you are to finding the one.  You can sift through hundreds of women, but if none of them are what you want then you will just get dating burnout and choice fatigue.

My advice is to limit your options to finding women through two ways – 1) through sparking conversations with women in real life and two by joining only one online dating site or app.

And here’s why.

Talking to women in real life forces you to start identifying and creating opportunities around you, instead of feeling that there are no good girls out there. Stick with me because I will tell you how to do this in number 2!

Secondly, when it comes to online dating sites or apps, going on more than one just means you are giving yourself too many women to choose from. Truth is if you can’t find enough dates on just one site, then you are doing it wrong!

Too many choices blur the lines of what you want and makes it harder to commit to who or what is in front of you because you are distracted by the fear of missing out of someone greater.

You aren’t going to know the full potential of a girl if you are too busy comparing her to another stranger.

5) Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses

Just as you are attracted to a confident woman, women attracted to confidence within a man. If that is something you have been struggling with then it’s time to start building more of it into your life daily.

We often lack confidence because we focus too strongly on our faults or what we don’t have compared to what other men out there do have.

Stop thinking that you need to be an alpha male in order to get the girl and start harnessing what strengths in your characteristics you have that make you stand out.

I want you to write a list of all the things you are good at and also what great qualities you bring to a relationship. If you are unsure then ask your mates or mum! Put that list somewhere where you can see it every day.

The next thing I want you to do is make an accomplishment board of all the things you have achieved that are worth noting. If you become too focused on what you want to gain instead of what you already have accomplished you can forget your current value.

Thirdly: If you know that you have one physical feature or characteristic that really charms people then enhance that when you go on a date with a girl.

For example: if you have great smile – then smile more

Beautiful eyes? Then wear a color that brings them out.

Leadership skills? Organise a date where you can lead her through a crowded space and come across as someone in control.

4)Let go of the ones who rejected you

Alright this is something we have to deal with. You can’t keep going into a new year carrying the same crap, as it warps your perspective and blocks the right women from wanting to invest into you.

Rejection happens to the best of us, and some of those Hollywood stars you see out there get rejected just as much as the rest of us normal folk.

The best thing to do is to see rejection as a redirection. What I like to do, is every time someone rejects me, I see it as confirmation that they aren’t meant to be in my life and therefore it means I am not entertaining who I shouldn’t

Delete photos of exs and old messages of dates that didn’t work out and start clearing your mind of women who don’t deserve a place in your life!

3) Put some effort into your dating profile

Ok, you have to realise that you have one third of a second to impress a woman online. So, if you haven’t already checked out my other video on Tinder profile tips, then make sure you do so straight after this video!

Guys just because there is an abundant of women, doesn’t mean they are all worth your time. You have to use the right bait to catch the right fish. And I will tell you right now that if you put more effort into your profile, then you are likely to get more quality options to choose from.

So, here’s what I want you to do; I want you to set aside 20 mins to actually sit down and update your profile so it doesn’t look like every other geezer on there. Select a few photos and send them to some trusted female friends and ask them which ones they think work best. 

Put some effort into your bio by talking about who you are and what you are looking for and make it sound interesting and fun!

If 20 mins can up your chances of finding the right woman, then my question is why haven’t you already done it?

If you get stuck, then look at successful profiles and simply base yours off there’s without copying word for word! You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just know the basics and how to enhance who you already are.

2) Approach more women in real life

This brings me back to point number 1. Talk to women in real life but without an agenda. 

What I mean by this is, often we are scared to talk to a random girl because we think she will flat out refuse us. But if you make the conversation the goal rather than the rejection or acceptance of you, then technically you can’t really fail. 

Having a casual conversation as opposed to straight asking her out, means you have less chance of rejection and also makes things seem more natural.

Truth is women love being approached in real life, as long as it is done under the right circumstances. You can literally accelerate the process of meeting someone and set yourself apart from the others if you simply take the initiative to open a conversation with a girl.

If you struggle with conversation, then I suggest downloading our conversation cheat sheet, because it will tell you what to say, when and how to say it so that you can approach a girl confidently. The link for that is in our bio or click the image on the screen right now .

The second thing to do is watch my other video “ Here’s How She Wants You To Approach Her” there is a link down in the description.

1) Learn more about women

It’s pretty crazy how many of the comments I read on this channel that say women expect too much. You guys have standards, right? Well so do we, and instead of getting angry at women because you haven’t met them , try to understand how we function .

You have to realise that there are two people in a relationship, therefore there are two needs and wants and both are as important as each other . If you want your ideal woman , then get to understand how she works, what she’s attracted to and what she also wants.

The more you take the time to understand women, instead of assuming they all want too much or are too complicated , the more you have an advantage over other men!

I would start with actively listen to women and asking them what they want instead of guessing your way. I would also watch several of our other videos like 7 Signs a Girl Likes You , How To Flirt With Girls or 5 Things Women Instantly Look For.

You see if you know how to fulfil her desires then she is going to want you even more , so it’s a win win situation.

Give up the guessing game , that is so 2018 and instead start working smart in love so that you can accelerate the girl of your dreams into your life .

BEST Last Minute Valentines Day Date Ideas

Here are the BEST Last Minute VALENTINES DAY Date Ideas!

Valentine’s day is here and before you label it as a cheesy hallmark holiday, let me just say that it is the perfect day to win a single girl over. Why? Because from January the first she is already hoping and wishing that she has someone to spend it with!

10: Go to a singles event –

There are probably quite a few Anti Valentine’s Day events for singles in your area, which is a perfect opportunity to grab some of your single mates and head along to.

The reason why this is prime ground for finding a girl, is you will literally be in a room with abundant of single women who are probably wishing that next year they have someone special to share the day with.

Now if you want to know the next 9 easy ways to find a date  then make sure you click the subscribe button and give us a thumbs up!

9:  Carry a bunch of roses to give out to women –

This might sound random, but giving a random rose to a woman who you are attracted to, is a great way to open a conversation.

Now it’s not to say the first will take you up on your offer, but if you carry enough roses and ask enough girls then who’s to say you can’t find a girl who might want to go on a date with you. 

8: Ask the girl out at the gym – 

If you have been eyeing a cutie at the gym or maybe even had a few casual conversations, why not use Valentine’s Day as the perfect excuse to take her out. You might even say to her or slip her a note saying “will you be my Valentine” …it will probably make her giggle and is a good way to open up a conversation that leads to a date!

7: Do a #hashtag search for Valentine’s day on social media –

There will be so many girls on social media either trashing Valentine’s day or saying how much they wish they had someone, so look at some of the accounts you follow or search a few hashtags like #singleawarenessday #needavalentine #needaboyfriend….and start talking to them via a message and see if you can woo her into a date (provided she lives near you!)

6: Go to a single parent meet up –

If you are a single dad then this is a great way to connect with other single mums who might be feeling lonely this time of the year. The best ways to find single parent groups is either a community notice board or through joining a Facebook group that does local meet ups.

5: Ask your work colleagues if they can set you up – 

Whilst dating your work colleague isn’t always ideal, it’s not to say you can’t date one of their friends. Sometimes finding a match is simply by using your connections and social circle to your advantage by expanding it and asking if they can set you up on a blind date!

4: Join a dating app or online site- 

Ok obvious one here, but the good point is, you have the perfect excuse to actually ask her out on a date earlier rather than later. Chances are she will be wanting to spend the day or night of Valentines with someone rather than alone, so this is a great opportunity to jump on!

3: Host a dinner party –

Dinner parties are a great way to meet new people in the comfort of your own home. Ask your friends to bring along any single friends or just new friends in general, so that you can create opportunities to meet new people and make a new connection. You never know who they might bring or who they might also know would be an ideal date for you!

2:  Buy a random girl a coffee –

If you go to a regular coffee store and see, then why not buy the next hot girl you see a coffee – even if she works behind the counter! Finding dates are often just about recognising opportunities in different environments and circumstances.

1:  Go on a date with yourself! –

If all else fails why not make this day about spending time with the most important you can ever have a relationship with, and that is yourself! I am a huge fan of dating myself regularly, because it means I learn to find joy in my own company, which funnily enough ends up attracting even more people into your life who want to add value!

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7 Reasons Why You’re NOT READY for a Relationship

Is she not ready for a relationship? Or are YOU not ready for a relationship?

Right now, there are over 3.5 billion women in the world. 2 billion of them are between 24-54 years old. Let’s assume half of them are single.

That leaves 1 billion women who – based on my experience – are actively looking to meet a man or are open to it. So why then are you struggling to meet ONE? 

Why is it that you can’t find a girl?

Why do you go on dates and put in all this effort… but still aren’t getting anywhere?

There are 7 reasons why and Renee Slansky from The Attractive Man team is here to tell you what those 7 fatal reasons are, and exactly how to turn them around.

1: You don’t know what you want

If you are out there dating and trying to have a relationship and have absolutely no idea, or a really vague idea of what you want, then it’s going to be a very confusing process for everyone involved.

Think of love like a map. In order to set a course, you have to know where you are and where you want to get to. This is what gives you a point of direction to work towards.

If you don’t have a sense of direction, you’ll just aimlessly wander around from girl to girl and never actually get anywhere.

Here’s what I want you to do: I want you to sit down, grab a piece of paper and actually write down WHAT YOU WANT! List the top 5 qualities in your dream girl and dream relationship and then ask yourself, how can I make that a reality?  Do you want a long-term or casual relationship? Because identifying what type of relationship you want will help you work out what qualities that girl will have that can give you that type of relationship.

Do you need to be more proactive? Do you need to do some work on yourself? Do you have any idea where this type of girl might hang out?

The clearer you are the more chances you’ll have of attracting her and recognizing her when she comes along.

2: You need to sort out your baggage

Let’s be adults now and understand that no one is coming to rescue us and that we are actually the common denominator in our lives. If you are struggling to hold a girl or find a girl then it could be because you need to sort your crap out!

A high value awesome woman isn’t going to put up with a guy that still lets his past get him down. Stop making excuses and do something about what you are bitter or angry about.

Having a great relationship is about being a great partner who doesn’t hold onto unnecessary destructive crap.

I want you to do something: I want you imagine grabbing a suitcase and load it up with 10 or 20 kgs of weight, then I want you to take it on every date with you and try to meet women…. pretty sure women are going to run a mile ….

Well that’s what having baggage is like…it repels the right people from our life and attracts the ones who also have unresolved baggage.

So here’s what you need to do to get rid of it:  Write a list of all the people who hurt you, list what they did, speak forgiveness over them and yourself out loud for each person: which is something as simple as “I Rob… forgive you Jane for breaking my heart and hurting me in 2010, I release you and myself from this experience” .

Then burn that list. It might seem stupid, but hey I’m the coach and I actually know what works, so try it for me.

Remember you can’t correct what you aren’t willing to confront.

3: Choose commitment.

I will say this, you aren’t alone and it is more common for men to fear commitment than women, but just because you are in company doesn’t mean it’s going to justify your fears or that it’s good company!

It’s time to grow up and realise that commitment is not a prison sentence, it’s an opportunity to be loved wholly by someone and open your heart to another who can actually enhance it.

Statistically speaking, married men actually live longer and have less stress, because they understand that a problem shared is a problem halved!

There will always be risk involved but you get to choose how you respond to life. So, try and just take commitment in baby steps instead of being scared away from the big picture. 

And ask yourself where does this fear come from, is there baggage from point number 2 you need to sort out?

4: You’re dating the wrong woman over and over again!

If you have a type that’s a great starting point, but just make sure it’s women who are also good for you.

You see you can’t choose who you are attracted to, but you can choose who to fall in love with.  Not all women are money hungry, blood sucking, heartbreakers (shock horror I know!)

But you have to weed out the good from the bad and learn to identify them early on.  Make sure when you are attracted to a woman that you are taking your time to get to know her, look at what she’s consistent in, and ask yourself if she has more than just looks and sexual attraction going for her.

One thing I get my clients to do is an ex mug line up …basically I want you to profile all your exs and previous dates and see what common qualities and similarities they all have. Then trace back what could be indications of these such as her looks, way to act, dress, her friends etc.

Then once you have an idea, you will be able to pick up on it before it’s too late!

5: You’re not making room for anyone in your life

If you want someone to fit in, then you have to make them feel like they have a place. I get it, you want to have all your ducks lined up in a row, but if you keep delaying because you don’t feel ready, you’ll keep missing out and losing more time.

It’s not about trying to squeeze her in when you finally have everything perfect, you can still have a relationship even while everything else is in progress.

So, here’s what I want you to do. I want you to set 1–2 nights a week free where you would eventually want to spend quality time with her. Right now, she’s not in your life, but it’s about getting prepared and in a positive routine to receive her. Dedicate these two nights to either proactively trying to get a date, by being social or interacting with women or doing something fun.

Next, I want you to clear a space in your bathroom for her… yep when she eventually comes you will already have a space for her to fit in!  Also, this physical reminder will keep you accountable to what you want and need to do as well to get it.

6: Your standards are too high or too low

Guys, get to know what a healthy and realistic standard is. Stop guessing or basing it off your past experiences and get educated.

If your standards are too low you will always be disappointed and unfulfilled. But, if they are too high, then women will never feel like they can please you and you will end up alone. The two indications of a healthy relationship are peace and progress. If you don’t have either then you are either too high or too low!

7: You don’t have a clue about women!

Ok lastly this is a pretty big one. If you don’t know a thing about women then we aren’t going to feel like you add value to us. This is why you have to subscribe to our channel, because we literally give all the juicy details away.

Guys women aren’t that complicated. We teach you how to talk to them and woo them, so if you haven’t downloaded one of our escalation cheat sheets then do so now.

Here’s the thing, a lot of the time all we want is to feel like a priority, have some security and know that you think we are beautiful and valued. It’s that simple.

If you want to know how we tick you have to get inside our heads and hearts! Make the effort to invest getting to know how we tick, what we feel and want, because it’s actually going to be to your own advantage, plus you’ll make up for lost time and set yourself apart from every other man out there.

Well that was a lesson and a half and pretty darn good, so do me a favour and share it with a mate and give us a thumbs up!

How to Get More Tinder Matches!

Tinder is still one of the fastest growing dating apps in the world.

But there’s a huge problem you’ve probably experienced already…

There are so many single men swiping and competing for the same beautiful women on Tinder, that it’s hard to match with the women you actually want.

I’m going to be brutally honest with you men, in today’s time and era we now have more single people than ever before, so if you are feeling like the fishing pond is a little crowded that’s because it is!

So, the competition is high and it means that you can’t just rely on the casual photo to win her over anymore. Truth is you literally have 1/10th of a second before she decided if she will swipe left or right on you. Like literally that’s a split second #ouch

So here are my tips to help you leave an impression before and after she chooses you

# 3 Choose a great primary photo

Your first photo is everything, it literally is the deciding factor of whether or not she will read your profile or even look at your other pics. And don’t scoff at this guys because we all know that you do the same. We are human and it’s normal to be drawn to someone or not purely because of how they look.

So here are the rules with profile photos:

1 photo of you – make sure it’s you of you right now, close up with natural lighting and nothing covering your eyes, because to a woman this doesn’t help build trust. And don’t forget to smile, statistics show that profile picture with a smile get more engagement

1 photo of a group – group photos helps show you have a social life and are fun plus it doesn’t make your profile seem like you’re too into yourself. Just make sure this isn’t your opening photo as then it becomes a guessing game!

1 photo of you dressed up – women love a man in a nice collared shirt, we think it looks sophisticated and classy. You don’t have to be in a tux, a simple white button up shirt always works a treat!

1- 2 photos showing you being active in a hobby – this is a great way to help communicate who you are and what you like, which will get a girl with similar interests to you wanting to know more. Plus it shows that you are active and fun!

#2 Make your bio original

Now of course aside from your pics you also need to make your bio interesting. Because after she sees your face she will then want to know a little about you.

The first rule is to not lie about your age or open up with a cheesy one-liner. Keep it short and simple but make sure it has something to laugh about in there. Humour, intelligence, and originality will set you apart from every other man out there.

Your bio should be a brief idea of who you are, what you like and what you’re looking for. No one needs to know your life history or needs to be lectured. Play it cool, but don’t take yourself too seriously.

They work because they have humor behind them and aren’t too full on or serious!

#1 Initiate a date straight away

And lastly, if you want to really get ahead of the crowd, then initiate a conversation straight away. Don’t wait to say hello and introduce yourself, step up and send her that message.

But make sure it’s more than a one worded conversation like “hey” …. crickets**

If you’re stuck for conversation then all you need to do is follow the following flow:

Introduce with confidence  – Hey’s what’s up ….as opposed to Hi my name is Rob, it’s great to meet you! ..are going to get two different responses. Own who you are and stand up!

Compliment – Telling her she’s hot…or has a great body as opposed to saying “You have a great smile, or your eyes are quite stunning are again sending two different messages – If you are complimenting stay away from anything overly sexual, make her feel beautiful not hot!

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5 Reasons Why Women Reject Men & How to Fix it!

Rejection hurts because it makes us feel inadequate as a person and potential partner. It knocks about our self–esteem, confidence and basically, all around makes us feel like crap.

We are all going to experience some sort of rejection in life, ( so let’s be realistic ) but if we can minimize it, then chances are we will feel more successful.

So here are 5 reasons why most women reject men and I’m also going to give you a practical solution to each of those reasons so that you can actually break the pattern. And then at the end, I will give you a cool bonus.

So lets’ start!

1: You’re coming across too strong or not strong enough

There’s a fine line become coming across overbearing and confident, just like there is between being nice and being boring. Women want a decisive man who can take control but she also wants to know you will give her options and space for her to move.

Solution – Her reaction will be your indication if you have gone too far or not far enough. Have a plan when you date or approach her so you can come across as a man with direction , but ask her opinion and give her some free range to add to the ‘plan’ so she feels valued.

2: You are friend zoning yourself

Here’s the thing , even if she has already thought she can friend zone you , you can actually change her mind . Friend zoning usually happened when you are too available and too nice.  She feels safe around you and can trust you which is great , but you need to keep up the chase and add a little bit of danger and excitement by not always agreeing with what she says and does and by taking control a little more.

Solution – allow her to see you in positions where you can show your leadership skills and have other women respond to you. Don’t also be so available and every time things get a bit plutonic step back and get her to chase you a little more.

3:  Your lack of confidence is betraying you

Not going to lie, women are ridiculously attracted to a confident man! Confidence is about projecting yourself in a certain way, even if you don’t feel it.  Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.

Solution – use body language and knowledge about what women want to your advantage to appear more confident. Dress to impress and always have a plan.

4: You aren’t putting in the effort to woo her

I did a poll recently and the number one reason women were being turned off by men was that they felt they weren’t putting in any effort. Effort doesn’t equate to spending lots of money on flowers and fancy dinners, it’s more about making us feel like a priority.

Solution – take note of how she responds to certain words and actions so you can keep putting energy into the ones that get her going. Remember the small details and doing little things daily to communicate you are thinking about her.

5:  You’re trying too hard

Yes, we want you to put in an effort but if you don’t give us room to chase you a little (which is what women instinctively want to do), then we get turned off. We want a little bit of mystery and a challenge whilst also knowing that you aren’t playing games. 

Solution – initiate the chase and start to woo her , but don’t go all in at once , give her a little then step back so she wants more…then give her more , etc. and keep repeating. Tease her with who you are the potential you offer her.

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How to Impress a Girl on the First Date | 5 Things Women Instantly Look For in Men

Dating is like a dance between the prey and the predator. You may not know this, but women actually want to be caught and devoured but by the right man!

To find the right man, women are instinctually and subconsciously looking for specific traits in men they meet.

So all you need to do then is know what those things are and how to embody them so that you can have her wanting you more without having to try and convince her!

I’m Renee Slansky with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to give you 5 things that women instantly look for in a man on a first date:

How to Impress a Girl: The First Date

Ok so first dates really matter and here’s why; this is where you are giving your first impression. And just because you like the girl and want a second date, doesn’t mean she is going to feel the same….UNLESS you know what she is looking for and able to tap into that, triggering her response to want to know you more.

Not going to lie, what I’m about to reveal to you is pretty much what most women are looking for in a first date, and truth be told it’s not as complicated or as scary as you think.

So let’s unlock the volt and jump in:

Here is what women are looking for – someone who can protect, provide, lead, love and listen ( in a nutshell) and here is how that translates to the first date:

1:  Confidence – not just in your appearance and body language but also in your actions, words, and decisions. We don’t want ego, but we do want a man who we feel has a sense of direction and is able to take charge and lead. This really comes across more in your energy and presence …if you can walk into a room and have a sense of confidence and leadership about you without coming across as arrogant, then we will swoon.

2: Decisiveness – nothing sexier than a man with a plan who can just make decisions and lead the way.  We want to know you are able to help us and be the man we crave and that comes across so easily if you take decisions (like ordering the wine or choosing the restaurant etc) …again you come across as a leader who can take control. And it makes us feel like a damsel…it also gives us a hint you can take control in the bedroom

3: Security – we want to feel safe to be ourselves and not be compared to other women. Whilst we also want to feel you could protect us physically and care about our safety. If you come across too domineering then we can feel unsafe in your presence and want to retreat. But if you shrink back from the confrontation hiding behind us then we won’t see you as a man who can fulfill our primal needs to be kept safe.

4: Listening skills –  If you can actively show interest in what we are saying it makes us feel like a priority. It also sends the signal that you care about what we say and who we are which are indications of the ability to love.  And listening also makes us feel safer around you and being able to trust and open up to you.

5: Chivalry – we don’t want a hero, but we do want a man who makes us feel like a lady. Simple things like opening the door for us, pouring the water, taking the bill, are all signs that you want to make us feel valued and special. It’s also an indication that you have the possibility to give us romance which is what women crave.

Final Thoughts

The thing is guys, tapping into what makes us tick makes us also want to do the same for you. Relationships aren’t just about giving so you can get, but by stepping up and playing your role so that you can build a solid foundation right from the first date.

The amount of women that are literally out there looking for just these 5 basics is incredible. So if you want to set yourself apart from the others and get her thinking about you, all you have to do is focus on those 5 things to create a lasting first impression.

When you are on the date, a woman wants a man who isn’t afraid to make a move, that’s why we created…

Motivate Yourself to Meet Women

Look, I know you want to improve your dating  life….

And sometimes while learning the game, you face challenges.

Learning how to meet women takes practice and discipline but sometimes lack of motivation and other priorities can get in the way.

So when times get tough, how do motivate yourself to go out and get the reps in?

TIP 1: No Fap

Although studies have actually shown that masturbation has little to no affect on your sex drive itself, it does affect your motivation to go out and meet real women. Think about it… If you could get the rush of chemicals from Hand-Solo all while never leaving your man cave, mentally there becomes less of a reason to go out and hunt, but it’s the hunt that makes you strong, and it’s the failures that make the taste of success all the sweeter. Every time you make a choice you are building a habit so why not choose to put the time to Master a skill that will help you in other aspects of your life that’s useful forever.

So Instead of taking the easy road to instant gratification make a rule for yourself…

TIP 2: Accountability Partner

When I started my journey to deal with social anxiety and get better with women, I had the support of 3 other guys who were doing the exact same thing.

We accomplished going out in Las Vegas 90 nights in a row plus day game sessions on the weekend. In fact, if it wasn’t for them I probably would have fallen off the wagon and given up in the first month.

See, we may have had our moments of disbelief at one time or another, but the key was, we never had them at the same time, and when it came time to go out, no man was left behind.

TIP 3: Just take the first step

I remember a few times in that 90-day marathon where I really didn’t want to go out. I’d whine and complain to my roommate about “how tired I was” or “how I didn’t feel like it” but he was a crafty one.

He would always tell me “Hey man, we’ll just go out for an hour, be home by midnight, its cool, let’s go,” and of course with it being a low investment to me, I’d end up going out…. But it never ended at “just midnight” because once I got rolling it was fun and I lost track of time.

So if you are having issues talking to girls, take the first step and just start showing up in the places that women are available to socialize with.

For working out, they say, showing up to the gym is half the battle. The same is true for meeting women.

TIP 4: Create a Reward System for your efforts, not your results

Maybe you’re like me, and you love video games, but we all know that the likelihood of you getting a hot girlfriend with video game skills is little to none, but is something you really enjoy. Like cake, if indulge too much, without burning off the calories you are going to get fat but you can still have it from time to time so use it as a reward. For example every night you go out and approach 5 women you could give yourself 1 hour of video game time. If video games aren’t your thing, substitute it with something else you enjoy, like getting a massage or taking a steamy hot bubble bath.

The key to this tip is rewarding your effort, just like those kids nowadays who get participation trophies, it like your consolation prize for at least trying.